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A Shopaholic’s Guide to Fewer Better Things

IMG_8C38CBED4530-1You don’t need any more toys. But I definitely need more jeans. Sound familiar?

Last year, I embarked on something I called “No Shop November,” I started it in late October because I was getting wildly out of hand with my shopping. And seriously, how can I tell my kids no, when I only tell myself yes?! Like come on, right?! No, you have enough trucks. But mom, you have 20 pairs of jeans… Ummmmmm. Who asked you?! Oops. Something has got to give. I lasted 4 weeks of no shopping, only buying gifts and one pre-approved sunscreen, but I found that it drove me crazy not to buy something daily. That’s not normal and clearly I was using it to fill some kind of void. It’s now almost a year later, I’ve finally found what works for me. It’s not perfect, but it’s a start.

I love fashion, so it’s hard to not want to grow my wardrobe. But it’s time to do this more thoughtfully, more responsibly. I picked up a copy of The Curated Closet in April and I’ve been so happy with my purchases, but also my lack of purchases since reading. I have streamlined what matters to me when I shop and I’ve found that in not shopping I have more items in my closet that make me truly happy.

Here are a few things that I am currently working on in my own quest to have fewer better things:

1. Cleanse that closet. Seriously. Be brutal. Get rid of anything that you don’t love or haven’t worn in the past 2-5 years. You’ll be shocked how much that actually is. Invite over a mean honest friend for a second opinion. Looking at you SarahBeth. Start by taking EVERYTHING out of your closet. Try stuff on. Really get in there. This is going to take hours, so prepare yourself.

2. Always have a list. Have a very specific list of items that you want to purchase. I do it the capsule way by season. When you have such a list it’s easier to know what you want. So when you are tempted to purchase something you can say, “Nope. Not on the list. Not needed. Peace.”

3. Think before you buy. Don’t make any hasty or quick decisions. Sleep on it. Shop around. You’d be surprised how easily you’ve forgotten items you “NEED” if you just wait a day or 2.

4. Don’t be swayed by sales. So back to the list. When things are on sale, especially super awesome sale, they just seem better. So if you have a list you aren’t tempted to get carried away because a sale can feel like an epic victory, but if the piece is never worn and soon destined for ThredUp, it’s not worth it. Now, when an item you’re saving for on your list goes on sale everybody wins!!

5. Don’t compromise. Save for the exact everything you want. Even if it takes months, years. Buying cheaper, lesser quality will just end up in your giveaway pile the following year.

6. Spend more money. Lol. Okay. Hear me out.  Shop small, shop local. Yes, it’s more expensive. But it’s also totally worth it!!! Buying one really nice item you’ll have for years and years can be more exciting then a shopping spree of items that don’t make you super happy. Higher price tags are also easier to walk away from if they don’t fit the budget that month. Save up, my friends.

7. Unsubscribe from most, if not all, email lists. How many times have you been coasting along, not shopping at all, when all of the sudden there’s a sale at Nordstrom and you’re back to the poorhouse. Well, don’t get the email = Don’t see the sale. I’ve saved hundreds of dollars by unsubscribing from Vici, among others. Email campaigns are companies most profitable marketing tool. There’s a reason. It also doesn’t hurt to unfollow on Instagram too.

8. You don’t have to be perfect. There are no rules here. Only the standards you want to hold yourself to. No one is judging, you need no justifications. This quest is just about being mindful of what we spend and what we own. So go easy on yourself.

Want to follow along with my Shopaholic’s Guide to Fewer Better Things!? Then subscribe by email to our newsletter on the sidebar and leave a comment below about your closet goals!! This is going to be, hopefully, a year long quest into buying less disposable clothing and more things that bring you joy! Who’s with me!?!

 

Nordies Anniversary Sale

IMG_7625Tis that time of year. No. Not that time of year, we still have a few months to prepare for the holidays. But the other time of year, that’s right. The Nordstrom Anniversary Sale!! Praise the sweet baby Jesus! This sale is pretty much the most legit sale ever, so get your Nordics Card ready, folks.

Here are some of my top picks!

IMG_7607[one – it’s under 12 bucks] Um, hello comfy t-shirt that costs the same as two drinks at Starbucks, this one won’t last long.

IMG_7606[two – over 80 dollars off] I am in love with Chelsea Boots right now and this pair is too good!!!

IMG_7608[three – a 66 dollar savings] I think this is the perfect transitional piece from diaper bag to real purse.

IMG_7609[four – only 11.90!!!] If you don’t know why comfy bras are a must-have, I’m not sure if we can be friends.

IMG_7610[five – nearly 70 bucks cheaper] I am obsessed with this Brand. So flattering, so comfortable + made in the USA.


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[six – these classics are $65] You guys, perfect addition to any “cool” mom wardrobe. Also, Spanx are life.

IMG_7622[seven – over a 20 dollar savings] Perfect Winter staple! Other colors are available if you are into that sort of thing.

Remember, card members you have early access through July 19th, sale goes public on the 20th!! What’s in your cart!?

Happy Shopping!

 

SwimZip

Processed with VSCO with a6 preset Processed with VSCO with a6 presetSo you know the show SharkTank, yes, THAT show! Well I love it, and I’ve found yet another amazing kick butt Mom run business that speaks to my SPF loving heart. SwimZip is affordable, stylish, and completely sunburn proof! That’s right, these puppies have a UPF of 50 and I swear to you, they work. We tested our SwimZip out on a recent weekend Pensacola #staycation and I am a believer.

Processed with VSCO with a6 preset Processed with VSCO with a6 presetFirst off, let’s talk about ease of wear. I didn’t put any sunscreen on the covered parts of the boys and they literally did not tan a bit where their SwimZip covered!! Praise. The. Lord. So we are talking minimal sunscreen application which is a major win to me.

Processed with VSCO with a6 presetSecond, it’s adorable. I am obsessed with the sweet jellyfish and shark prints we received. Felix’s little green bummies are my actual favorite thing on his chunky little thighs.

Processed with VSCO with a6 preset Processed with VSCO with a6 presetThirdly, Mama looked cute too. I am a next level fan of their Cropped Rash Guard. I felt super cute and it SAVED my tattoos. Tattooed ladies know that sunlight is the enemy, so I felt totally comfortable and was thrilled to be keeping my very special, very expensive ink fresh and safe. I paired it with their super flattering high-waisted bottom for a hot mama look. Oh-oh-oh and they have thumb holes!!!  I know, swoon. Take that Lululemon.

{S I D E N O T E} Nursing Mama’s this zippered rash guard would make breastfeeding a breeze, I totally wish that I had one of these tops when I was nursing my boys!

Processed with VSCO with a6 presetOh, and because I know you’re going to ask. It is not miserably hot to wear. I was concerned about this for myself, but found it easy to wear all day at the beach and poolside. It’s super comfy in the water and dries quickly. Felix doesn’t say much, but Rocco was comfy and didn’t complain once about being hot. And he’s nearly 4… if he was uncomfortable or his green beans touched his rice, he’d let us know.

DCIM100GOPROGOPR1081.JPG Processed with VSCO with a9 presetSo I have to say, I’m completely impressed by the quality and the effectiveness of these suits. Have you tried SwimZip!? Are you going to now!? Yeah, I thought you might.

Happy Shopping!

 

Madewell Sale

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So I’ve been doing this whole “fewer better things” lately and it’s quite remarkable how much money I’ve saved and how many regrettable purchases I’ve avoided. I have to say though, I’ve never made a Madewell purchase I regret!! Some of my favorites are on sale and I have my eyes on some new pieces so I, of course, had to fill you in.

I am obsessed with my monogrammed {free for insiders} tote, I carry it all the time. Perfect bag for travel and hauling around laptops and computers on the daily. I am also in lurrrv with my Roberta chambray, lightweight and oh-so-soft. I am thinking of adding this apron top + these statement earrings to my closet repertoire, thoughts??? And can we talk about this bucket bag?? I feel like I have to have it… right? Perfect for that transition in life when you don’t quite need a diaper bag, but a purse isn’t realistic yet… Moms, ya feel me?

**Use code SPARKLER for 20% their summer staples!!!**

Happy Shopping!!

Living for the Weekend…

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It’s no secret. Moms love weekends. It’s like we get to relax. AHAHAHAHA. I kid. We never get to relax, but it does feel like we get a break, no matter how small. I saw this shirt and pretty much immediately had to have it. It’s so so so soft and I’m happy it’s mine. I will also wear my leather jacket until it’s literally 80 degrees out, everything below is fair jacket game. So that’s how this mom look comes together.

I hope everyone has an amazing week and if you need me, I’m just going to be over here counting down the days until Friday at 5.

I got this…

design-3Hi there. Let me introduce myself. I am a mom who barely changes out of pajamas, who tries her best to rarely leave the house without backup. Aka. The hubs. I breakout into a stress sweat thinking of taking both of my children somewhere, ANYWHERE… like, for instance, the grocery store… Let me paint a picture…

Why are car seats so difficult?! I might as well burn all my silk shirts now. They should have fans to cool off mom while she’s taking baby in and out of the car. Is that invented yet?! Did I just become an fucking millionaire?! Bring it Shark Tank.

Then once they are out of the car you need a carrier or a stroller, or worse, a shopping cart. These bacteria infested nasties, that are always strewn across the parking lot by lazy pieces of shit, are always no where to be found when you go to the grocery store?! What the what?! I just need one freaking cart near my car. Dear Lord.

please don't crydon’t cry. don’t cry. don’t cry. don’t cry. don’t cry.

Once inside you calm yourself, this is gonna be fine. Your pit stains start to dry. You’re a flipping queen. Out with both kids like a boss.

Wait. Toddler. How can you reach all this stuff?!! Why are you licking fruit?! That’s dirty. Here’s some pre-cut fruit. Sweet. I’m a great mom. Giving my kid a healthy treat– WHAT. THE. HELL?! Did you just dump all the cantaloupe on the ground?! Why?! Sweat returns.

Baby. You got this. Just chill in your 100+ dollar carrier. Can someone carry me in a giant baby carrier?! Sweet baby is gonna relax. Ouch. Did you just pull my hair?! Eekkk why are you trying to push off me like a spider monkey?! I’m just trying to show you love by wearing you so you can grow up to be a better human… Isn’t that what baby wearing is supposed to do???

Toddler. No. You can’t have a truck you don’t get a toy every time we leave the house. 10 seconds pass. You win. Here’s a damn toy.

Baby. Still attempting acrobatics inside the baby carrier. Tits feel as though they have been punched by a lady wrestler for an hour.

no seriously help meno seriously. please send help.

Stand in the freezer cooling pits wasting all the electricity. Mmmmmm frozen burrito. We’re almost done. Almost there. Just have to get this mess to the checkout.

Cashier. That will be 3 million dollars. Huh?! What?! What did I buy?! I can’t even make a meal with this, but I do have 30 bottles of raw coconut water… makes sense. Baby. Starts to cry. Hands card. Nope. I have to slide it. Nope. I have to insert it. What. The. Hell. Just take my money and get me the fuck out of here.

As you sign your name on the pen pal, you think, “damnit shit balls ass, I forgot the [insert random, but crucial ingredient to tonight’s dinner].” Welp, guess we are never having said item ever again. Get. ME. OUT.

Processed with VSCO with a6 presetplease don’t lick the cart. sigh. kid’s are dumb. 

Back outside. Sweats have started just imagining buckling children back into car seats. Load up trunk. Then begin the 25 minute process of deciding how to get kids in car and then return cart. Store was packed so you’re 6 spaces away from the return. Decide on baby first. He goes in. While you keep your foot tangled in the cart so no one steals your toddler, it’s science. Then toddler. He goes in. Screaming for his truck. You then prepare yourself for the sprint of a lifetime. Deep breaths. And execute, execute. This takes you 12 seconds. You hear that pieces of shit who don’t return carts!?! 12 seconds.

You get in the car and turn that ac shit up MAX. You hold back the urge to cry. Your pits start to dry. You hear your favorite Bieber song start to play. You begin singing, your kids love it. They are so happy. You crack open your coconut water and drive home like a bad ass bitch.

Hells yeah, I got this.